Communicate from the party's point of view


"It's Bro!" 」

"It's light."

When I called myself each one, I gathered my voice.

"Together, three people, it's a three flags!"

YouTube program "THREE FLAGS- Kibo no Nooshi" has begun. It takes about 10-30 minutes with one theme each time. More than six months have already been released from the first in autumn 2019.

Contrary to the opening of the light nori, it deals with serious social problems. Social care (= raising children with circumstances that their parents cannot raise in society). Eligible children live in infant homes until the age of 2 and foster homes from 2 to 18 years old.

Each time, "children's homes", "foster parents", "temporary shelters", etc., the theme is set in the field of social care, and it is characterized by the program composition from a wide range of viewpoints beyond individual experience.

Three Flags is a unit of the parties who experienced life in a foster home.

Mr. Wright (Mr. Yoshito Nishisaka, 34) is a filmmaker. He is also a picture book writer. Bro-san (Mr. Brohan, 28) is a model and a talent. Mako -san (Masako Yamamoto, 27) is qualified as a nursery teacher. After working as an instructor for school child care, he is currently freelance and giving lectures at universities. It organizes an activity called ACHA Project to wear furisode to young people who grew up in social care.

It was at the end of May that three people visited a private house behind JR Urawa Station, just after the state of emergency was lifted. Clover House is an aftercare business for young people who graduated from children's homes.

It is operated by Compass Navi, a general incorporated association commissioned by Saitama Prefecture as a place to meet, to prevent the isolation of young people who are moving toward self-reliance after the period of social care. Activities are held three times a week. It is a place where young people from the graduation school to roughly 10 years talk with each other in the same position.

The three people involved in Clover House appeared in a relaxed atmosphere that was no different from the video.

"We're sending out the wind because we believe that people who want to move (for children with social care) will catch something."

Mr. Wright, who is in charge of composing and editing the show, opened the door, and the three began to talk about their thoughts.

What kind of place is a children's home?

There are 605 children's homes in Japan, but there is not much contact in our lives.

On the other hand, the number of consultations on abuse to child guidance centers increased 13.7 times in 2018 compared to 2001. Of the approximately 25,000 children currently living in foster homes, 65.6 percent have been abused by their parents.

If the family is not safe, the child has the right to be protected by social care, but there is little information on what kind of place the child care facility is entrusted to the children's home.

The Three Flags program, which conveys the scene of social care from the perspective of the parties concerned, is revolutionary.

Mr. Wright spent two years in the fifth and sixth years of elementary school in order to avoid father's violence, and then lived with his mother with his four brothers and sisters until high school graduation. Bro was abused by his father-in-law from the age of four and grew up in a foster home between the ages of 11 and 18. Mako was placed in an infant home at four months and grew up in a foster home between the ages of 2 and 18.

Deep loneliness felt after leaving the facility

The children's home where Mako lived was a small facility and cherished the family atmosphere. Three staff members take care of the staff in rotation. It was loved, and it grew up stretching. It was a different environment from the so-called "ordinary family", but I didn't feel frustrated or inferior to that.

When I graduated from the facility after graduating from high school, I was sad and stayed overnight in a park near the facility where I grew up for a while. It is said that the death was near because of a deep loneliness for several years after leaving the facility.

Bro moved from one house to another until he entered the facility at the age of 11, but he had the first experience of being praised at the facility and was able to satisfy his desire to be recognized by others. Adults at the facility advised him that stable work is important to live alone, and after graduation he went to a nursing job. There was a time when I couldn't devote myself to a job that I really wanted to do because I didn't have a longing for it.

Even though I was able to earn a lot of money, my household management didn't work out, and I experienced financial difficulties.

About 20 years ago, when Wright lived in a facility for two years, most of his seniors got a job after graduating from junior high school. Some people moved from job to job without long work, and others lost their lives after eating them. After struggling to adapt to society, Wright, who was a boy, was afraid of the future. The life which had the newspaper delivery and the school in the morning and evening was severe though it studied at the movie vocational school by using the newspaper scholarship degree.

"Because everyone is a party to something."

"I think everyone is a party to something."

As to why he started Three Flags, Bro said:

"I am a party to parents' divorce, abuse, child care, and so on. My mother was from the Philippines, and when I was a child, Tagalog was my mother tongue, and my father didn't recognize it, so I didn't have nationality until I was 15 years old. I don't meet people who have had the same experience as me, but I meet people who have had a lot of experience. It leads to understanding the other person.

Considering that there are many people who are worried about abuse as a party, children's homes should no longer be unrelated. I think that the more experiences I have, the more I think I can play a role in connecting various parties."

Why did you come to be able to share a severe childhood with others in this way to look back?

"When I lost my beloved mother to cancer at the age of 14, I felt despair and feelings like my willing to kill my father-in-law and father-in-law who abused me."

At that time, I met an American journalist named Vulture and Girl, a very famous photo taken in Sudan. Vultures are about to strike an African girl who is about to die of starvation. There is a girl on the other side of the world that exists in such a harsh situation, and when I think about it, it seemed to make sense to be born and living in a facility now.

"With this thought, I began to think from the bottom of my heart that I would live my life as much as I could and report it to my mother someday."

Through a long-time dialogue with himself, Bro recaptured his childhood as a meaningful life.

I want to share my issues positively.

The program covered "abuse" three times. On the other hand, it has been reported that abuse against children is increasing in STAY HOME of the Corona crisis.

In Three Flags, the issue of "abuse as an extension of the discipline" was raised from the point of forth between "the boundary between the samurai and the corporal punishment". In addition, he introduced the 40-year change in Sweden, which was the first country in the world to enforce a law to punish corporal punishment for children in 1979. In the third session, he concluded based on Mako's relationship with parents in school childcare, saying, "A little kindness toward parents will be effective in preventing abuse."

In the composition, Wright says that he was conscious of his parents' feelings.

"Abuse, of course, is not good. So why do parents abuse them? What is behind the parents? I'd like to give you an opportunity to think about that."

Behind the abuse lies social issues that are difficult to see, such as poverty and a chain of abuse. If you are interested in social care, you will think about the problems of social structure.

In the "Rights of the Child", while introducing the Convention on the Rights of the Child adopted by the United Nations General Assembly in 1989, he told children that they have the right to live, the right to grow up, the right to be protected, and the right to participate. Based on his own experience, Bro told children who may have been abused, "believe in your discomfort and rely on reliable adults."

The tone of the show is always positive.

"There is nothing to do when you hurt or criticize someone. We want to think about problems with the people who watch it and change the environment of the people who are today."

A single word can hurt someone. The script is not made and it proceeds by free talk, but it is said that it is careful to choose each word carefully and to speak.

That there is an adult who recognizes

Mako-san has an important person. It is a woman of the former staff who loved it. The person who watched over Mako who was a child who took a hand such as repulsion to the rule of the facility was sick when Mako-san was a junior high school student and retired, but there is still an exchange. It is said that Mako-san has a feeling that it is for the person.

"When I went to see you after retirement, I heard you look back negatively about your job as a facility worker, and I wanted to say that no, no, no, thanks to your love, I'm alive. At that time, I wanted to prove that your work was right by living firmly because it was like the person's work."

Mr. Wright said.

"I don't think there's anything you can't do if an adult gets serious."

Mr. Wright, a native of Fukushima, was long involved in reconstruction projects in Koriyama City after the Great East Japan Earthquake. At that time, there is an event engraved in the heart.

At that time, children were not able to go out because of concerns about the health effects of radioactivity, and stress accumulated, and the problem of obesity also occurred. At the end of the year, a large indoor play facility called Pep Kids Koriyama was completed, with the government and corporate adults raising funds and collecting technology so that children could play as much as they could. Mr. Wright can't forget what he saw at that time, and he devoted himself to the single-mindedness of adults.

"I believe that as long as adults realize that the problem of children's homes is not a single thing, they can always change it in the right direction."

Support, not support

Finally, I would like to introduce an interview with Three Flags. Mr. Jun Maekawa, a member of the Small and Medium Enterprise Association in Kyoto who runs a photo studio.

He has been involved for 12 years, focusing on employment support for children in children's homes. I heard that young people from the facility can't find the right job and their jobs won't last long. In the show, Maekawa spoke.

"The child who had been putting it on the knee since it was small grows up, and it goes out to the society. When we go out into society, we drink together once in a while. I hope this kind of relationship will support us when it's hard."

"I don't think it's a support. It is support. I like it and do it."

There is no waiting for the child's growth. The government is expanding its budget for social care, but it is next to impossible to perfectly prepare. Social care that respects children's rights is probably realized only by combining social systems with networks such as nets by adults.

Three Flags' particularly emphasized challenges include "ventilation" and "employment support" at the facility, as well as aftercare after graduation. It is said that the support of gentle adults who wrap the system from the outside could solve the problem.

"I think a little bit of relationship can change your life. I hope that the interaction with adults outside the facility will open the window to the society of children in children's homes."

Mako-san connected Mr. Wright's words like this.

"But I'm given what I'm going to give. I myself have been able to acknowledge my existence through my relationship with the children who were happy to wear furisode in the AHCA project. What I got is much bigger."